Things about Relationships I wish someone told me about 

7:22 toga my waifu, why u so flat

*RED FLAG.*

*WUMBO*

I have a question? What if that relationship that you’re in is good and bad? I mean I know someone who only texts me when they interested in what I’m talking about or if they want something, but that’s through text, in real life they can be really funny and nice, but I’m not sure if I’m supposed to show particular side to myself because I really don’t want them to see as less of a person. Sometimes I can hear other people laughing more with others and having more fun with them, talking more, which makes me think of things I’m doing wrong. Whenever someone responds to me happy (unless it’s my family) it feels like a miracle. People have been telling me to go back to being myself, but I don’t know who I really am, or what I should be like, and sometimes it feels like I’m fitting myself into a mold I want to be like, even if I will never be like that. Sometimes I get scared of things that will happen, that people I know and love will drift apart and go our separate ways. Sometimes it feels like I’m not completed and I act so much different around different people, are friends really friends if you’re nervous to make mistakes around them? Ive seen some things that my own actions have done, some are ones I regret and I really hope that I can make it up, but sometimes I don’t know if I can. So much more to say but I should probably stop babbling about myself :> (I know you probably won’t read this but if there’s even a 0.1 percent chance I hope you answer!) -Love One of your fans :D

I always find myself coming back to this video, thank you so much jaiden

This helped me alot now time to go ask my crush out thanks jaiden

IF YOURE A YOUNG PERSON WATCHING THIS: What she is speaking of is straight up facts. Listen to this. You're beautiful and deserve happiness. I had to learn this all the hard way. Trust me, letting go of someone manipulative hurts at first but once you feel better without them you'll understand why you had to do it.

are you getting married with theodd1sout

I had a friend she was just like all these things jaiden just discribed and I would cry every time after hanging out with them

God had a major breakup recently, this helped great video as always

Bruh, toga

TOGA

And that was life lessons with jaiden

7:20 is that Toga?

i wish you would touch more on not immediately seeing yourself as the victim. like. you briefly mention to reflect over your own behavior but its such a tiny part of the video and doesn't really approach it from a deeper way that could help those people. and i think videos like these are a part of that problem, teaching you to think primarily about how Others are Hurting Sweet, Vulnerable You, with only a passing mention of the other way around. but the most manipulative people aren't only unaware of that, but they actively see themselves as victims who are responding to any emotional pain by thinking that they're being hurt by someone on purpose or that they're automatically the victim if they started feeling bad or uncomfortable. that's the kind of attitude that leads to people calling their friends "abusers" without any reflection of how they treated them.

it's been 8 or 9 months. I watched this video first when I was in a toxic (online) relationship after watching it, I realized that it was probably toxic, but continued to gaslight myself into "it's something she can't control" and "it'll get better eventually." I was able to get out of that friendship and im fine now, but I'd like to answer the questions Jaiden put in about 9 minutes into the video, and keep in mind, my birthday is in February and this relationship ended in August that year. I was 10-11. *Did you put off seeing or responding to them?* If I have, I didn't remember. I woke up around 9 and played with them at 12 or later because they were 3 hours behind me pretty much until 10pm. That gave me 3 hours of me doing whatever a day, which wasn't good. *Did you feel worse after spending time with them?* The majority of the time, yes, I'd say about 80%. The times we stopped talking for the day not at 10pm my time was usually due to her getting overwhelmed and snapping at me and not treating me well as a result. I'm the type of person who can't handle getting yelled at and sometimes even being told something assertively, so I'd often mute and cry behind the microphone or go on push to talk before I eventually just left. *Have they threatened you or themself in any way?* Yes, but not until I had already left. I had blocked them on all platforms and made it virtually impossible for her to talk to me, but my friends still sent screenshots of what she was saying because we both thought I needed to be aware. (now I'd say get someone else not in the situation to look at them and help you) She said stuff like "I want to kill her, her family, and then myself." These honestly scared me because she knew my town and state as I thought I could trust her with it. (She never followed through with her promises, thankfully ;w;) *Did they make you feel like you couldn't do things on your own, or that you couldn't make a single decision without them?* Definitely. When I was playing on my Minecraft server that I own, I felt like I couldn't do anything without her consent. It even stretched beyond that, anything relating to something online I felt like I couldn't do without her consent. *Did they ask for a lot of favors or money and didn't pay it back?* Nope, that was mainly me doing it actually. I asked for her to do things within reason, and I had a right to as most of our time was spent on a Minecraft server I owned. I never paid it back, however, because I was too awkward to on top of never really being asked. *Did they talk badly behind your back?* Yes, but only when I had already left. With most manipulative relationships, the manipulator will feel and act genuinely caring about their victim most of the time, except the times when they aren't thinking about it and when their manipulation really shines. When their victim escapes, the manipulator immediately turns on them and says things like their victim has betrayed them and the manipulator absolutely hates their victim now. That's what she was doing to me. *Did you feel like you were walking on eggshells around them?* Only really when she got more overwhelmed. The rest of the time I would just be careless and be myself. *Did they put you down?* No, and she never did. She actually loved all things I created, which is arguably a form of manipulation too in the form of overconfidence and trust. I hope this helped some of you, or if it didn't, I hope it was at least interesting otherwise I just wasted your time- xD

...I always ask people for their help in classes but I don't really give something back since I am really bad at classes, I can only help when its english and stuff...is that bad?

Not going to lie, I have this one friend who is just kind of an a-hole. And I really find to be more annoyed with him than when I first met him. But I've known him for so long and just don't know how to tell him that, I'm done with his BS and then kick him out of my life. Any tips on this, anyone?

One of my “friends” (I put quotations because they’re not really my friend since their toxic) was being toxic to me and some of my other friends and I already knew she was being toxic because I’ve been in toxic relationships before but some of my friends didn’t notice that she was being toxic because this was their first toxic relationship so I showed them this video and now they understand and ended their friendship with the toxic friend and I ended my friendship with her too! Thanks for the help, Jaiden!

Lol hehe

The coke scene was hilarious

Wait is that Toga lol

I had a toxic friend and I ended that I hope

The dare reference is super cool

2:46 this guy is an anime anime character and is about to destroy this guy

I wake up and say: Haha I'm going to be super manipulative today!

This helped me so much, My friend can be a little annoying, but I'm like that, the problem was that he was some times mean to me and my friends, but he doesn't really have any nice friends, so I fell bad for him. But it's for the greater good, so I'm going to give him some time and help me and my friends ecoes, thank you for the video and great job

Hi Jaiden! I really like your vids and want to encourage you to do more things like this, thank you so much for entertaining me!

Never had one never need one.

But I’m there therapist

when she said ask your self "am i being an "ari" hole? LOLOLOL

7:21 I’m dead 🥲👍 toga rlly said “😃👍”

😂Hahahahhaahhahahahhahhahahhahahahahaahahahhahahahahahahahhahaha 😭

I like this vid. Very helpful.

Omg it’s Satan 🤣🤣🤣

I'm scared because I have a friend that is not talking to me and overall never contacting me in general. She lives somewhere far away, and I never really have the chance to see her since my family stays home most of the time. It's almost been 3 months without talking to her, so should I break it off or stay calm and wait? (Jaiden, ty for helping to see what toxic relationships and healthy relationships are like :D

Boyfriend: I can’t go because my girlfriend won’t let me (ok that’s fine) Girlfriend: I can’t go because my boyfriend won’t let me (MANIPULATIVE BOYFRIEND)

“are my other friends gonna do it?” *slam*

Of all the ways to spell Riley she uses the way my sister spelled her name.....should I be scared?

Thx this tought me a lesson i subscribes make more pls

Thanks for help. It helped me alot. And i started overthinking things

ive been manipulated before...i moved to another state...across the country

Thank you for opening my eyes

my sister's boyfriend is controlling in my opinion but I can't stop that because I don't know him well, but I think your advice is really positive and I think it will help a lot of people

thank you

What the hell Chad

IVE SEEN THIS SO MANY TIMES AND I ONLY JUST REALIZED THAT WAS TOGA

I managed to break off a traumatic relationship of 2 years cause they said that if i don't send them this or do this then they will kill themselves but i got out of it and I'm doing better then when i was with them

Me 😔 I am the bad person I am doing all of these things

girl: "haha, I'm gonna be super manipulative today." me: "IS THAT TOGA-"

this helped me so much thank you!!!! my friend is doing all of this to me so i am glad i subbed to you jaden

Ok this really helped do you have a patreon?

7:21 ... TOGA? IS THAT YOU??

TToTT

wait are you telling me that people getting crumbs in the butter isn't normal?? My whole family does it, I always just thought I was the only one who got annoyed by it

"OH MY GOD ITS SATAN!?!?!?!"

"Haha, I'm going to be super manipulative today!" .....Toga no-

That moment you realize that Santa Claus gives gifts kids all over world but, does he give gifts to Ms.Claus he does that to make kids happy but does he spend time with his family and make them happy

2:45 i can't stop laughing

when the person woke upcand said 'imma go manipulate today' the blonde messy space buns...me: himiko toga?

Me Love animation 🙃🙃🙃

I ended my three year relationship after I got proof I was being cheated almost all the time. Thanks to OPTIMUMTECHNOLOGY1 on Instagram for clearing this out, he hacked into her facebook and Whatsapp without traces and also gave me password to those accounts. Now I can finally go on freely with my life with proofs of unfaithfulness from her

It might just be that I am a crazy mha fan but 7:22 IS THAT FRICKING TOGA!?

T o g a ?

But like if there is a slight possibility of them feeling helped and calm through us then i guess that's okay right!? But i get your point 😭😭💔💔💔💔

"See that toxic person, we’re walking the other way"

Excuse me, wich app do you use?

Am nice but I don’t like people Cuz am lazy

I remember when I first watched tis vid i thought hey thats not coca cola cause i did not know what cocaine was. Lol

How did she manage to cram so much knowledge and wisdom into 9 minutes tf I feel like I just completed a course on life lessons

Jaiden’s Friend: Where did you get your first kiss? Jaiden: A mountain Jaiden’s Friend: Which mountain? Jaiden: *A mountain*

So when I was young I had a best friend I knew since kindergarten and she was like a sister to me but as soon as we got in third grade I started noticing a side to her which was odd since it's like she always acted then I had a long thought process and I started realizing that she was toxic I realized she made me stop hanging out with most of my friends and she was talking crap about them it took me so long and I was so young one day she did something that I will not say and then she turned on me she started telling lies and spreading incorrect rumors about me then she made me feel like it's all my fault and we almost became friends again but then she started bullying my other friends but she moved in 5th grade and everything went back to normal although she had ruined my little island because I took care of hers so much its slowly getting better and now I'm in 6th grade and I have more friends then ever though I miss her at least my little island is doing alot better and I hope her island is getting better to

Nah you just met wrong people, its not like that in reality

TOGA HIMIKO

Whenever people get mad that leaves me completely paralyzed with fear

The furry furtive capricorn basally mess up because innocent currently smoke modulo a handsomely playroom. better, like lobster

Thanks, Jaiden, I believe this’ll help a lot of people.

Earth is a rock yes

7:20 did anyone notice toga?

I feel super bad because I broke up the contact to one of my friends because her mother is a real dragon and don't like me. I feel like leaving her alone with this dragon with no protection or anyone to help her. But every time I was with her I felt like her mother cut our relationship like threads. And then she chose another school major than all her friends because her mother wanted that and I was one of her last friends. And everytime I meet her I felt like fighting against a dragon behind her. And then one day I was too exhausted to fight more. And I gave up. And I know it was bad from me but it was like jaiden said. I hac my one garden and this woman was spreading poison in it.

7:23 TOGA!

Is jadien are an animate or and and threapist also we fucking love u with all our hearths love ya

7:23 t o g a ?

i wish i could. i don't really know how to not be friends with my own cousin i go to school with

Oh gosh I want to use this in my classroom but you swore ahhhh. They need this lesson. Is there a version without help

why im here in the Animation again huh

Well not anymore 8n 2020 and 2021

"And OH MY GOD ITS SATA-"

was that toga 7:21

Sometimes I miss my toxic friends so much. I used to have so much fun with y'all. Until you guys started ... polluting my personal ecosystem.

There are so many amazing and encouraging analogies in this video

Now 6.3 billion people

@3:07 comedy gold!

Yes but I dont want them to harm themselves

Y'all know what all the kids YEEEEEEE

I have an amazing friend. I dont *need* her, but she helps me through a lot just by bieng there. My little ecosystem is thriving and so is hers. I've learned to help my own ecosystem, and no little world could be healthier and more well maintained. :3

when im a bad person my mom doesn't like me now im ganna be a good person

0:38 is that a joke ? or a REAL RED FLAG ? cuz I do that sometimes

me sees satan also me never does a drug again

Do they threaten you or themselves? Do they make you feel like you can't do things on your own? These both really stuck out to me,because my brother is like this yet doesn't realise it,neither does my family.